Are you a parent who is trying to force fit your values on your children? I know in my life, my mother totally spooked me about life. Perhaps because she was raped, she made me think there was a demon around every corner waiting to pounce on me. I grew up feeling very helpless against a world ready to devour me.
As an adult I realized that I looked to God’s Word for my security. But then something unhealthy happened. My older son once said to me, “Mom, why do you get so upset when I don’t agree with you theologically? I feel sometimes that you have to convince everyone to believe what you think because you get insecure if you don’t believe the same thing. The more insistent you get, the less I believe that what you are saying is true.” Wow! What a revelation! I had to confront myself, “What is your motive? Are you insistent because you are afraid of the consequences for those you love if they don’t follow what you believe is God’s will? Or are you insistent because you find security in believing what you believe and it rattles you if others don’t believe it.”
The answer was, “Both.” There are times I am warning someone out of my concern for them. And there are times I am insistent because I’m not sure and so it makes me insecure if you challenge what I am saying.
Oh from the mouth of babes, God corrects us!! Today, I stop myself when I get insistent and I ask myself, “How self-centered are your comments? Are you watching out for the person you are talking to or are you watching out for yourself?”
What about you? When was the last time you offered a strong opinion concerning someone’s behavior? Were you watching out for them or for how their behavior affects your world?