But They Said They’d Always Be There

When the person I thought would always be there disappears from my life I get distrustful of everyone. I withdraw into myself and I become afraid to conquer the world. In fact, I no longer want to conquer anything. I just want to stay in bed. But it is often while I am hiding under my blankets and never wanting to emerge into the world again that God meets me in my cave. And it is there that He assures me I am not alone. And then with the assurance from God, I emerge from my cave. But I stay out just a little while and withdraw again. It takes me time to build up the assurance to stay out of the cave.

I believe one way God keeps me out of the cave is to put the battle in front of me. When someone has a need and God places that need on my radar or when the ministry has launched with its calendar, I am pulled into activity whether or not I am ready. I find that deadlines can sometimes serve as a life saver because they force me to get out of bed. When I know God has put a conference on the calendar I know that no matter how I am feeling, I must get through the conference because thousands will be impacted if I just quit. And then I’m surprised at how staying committed to what God has put on the schedule pushed me to get up in the morning. And the more I get up, the more I keep going. And then the choice to keep going becomes my mode of operation. It’s like I’m on auto pilot and God has trained me to be a warrior He can trust to finish His mission.

That’s Not the End of the Story

The day my mother died, I wrote the words “The End” to her story. As far as I was concerned, hers was a legacy of defeat. She was a woman who allowed life to overwhelm her. I was terrified that I had her DNA and that I would end up just like her. But what God showed me was how His Spirit resurrects life out of ashes. What my physical eyes judged as “It’s all over”, my spirit sensed a restlessness from something that was still stirring. That something was God at work, rekindling the fire and writing a different end to the story.

 

Excerpt from the book:The ending is unfolding before us, in my mother’s grandsons, in the foundation of a ministry that will protect God’s dreams for thousands of women, beginning in Houston, Texas and spreading to cities across the nation and the world. The realization hit me like a thunderbolt: that my mother’s life, for all its losses, had never once lost its central, extraordinary idea. In this world of tragedy, the best we can do is look out for each other; the highest act of friendship we can perform is to help those we love…I carry with me her service and leave   behind her limitations. All of her dreams came true for me. I have the opportunities, the education, and the loving and supportive family that she always wanted for me.

 

In understanding the purpose of my mother’s life I understood better the purpose of mine. Her life unfolded in front of me like a screen play which represented the lives of millions of women.

 

When you think of the final chapter of your story, how do you think the story will end? If your physical eyes judge your situation as bleak, can you envision how God can transform your story with a different ending? Respond below

 

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Do You Have Trophy Children?

I remember my mother introducing me to her friends and smiling when they commented on how pretty her little girl was. She had dreams of me being a movie star one day. Then I grew into an ugly stage as a teen and I could see the disappointment on her face when glimpses of future stardom vanished into thin air. I learned from a young age how a woman can make her children into personal trophies and create confusion in their spirit.

In raising my sons I had to learn to let them have their own process to hear God and determine their values. They needed to break free of what I expected them to believe. Thank God my two boys were not easily manipulated and they had the capacity to discern truth. They observe life and they won’t do things just because everyone else does it. I remember my older son challenging me and saying, “Why do you get so upset when we challenge ideas? It’s like you’re not sure because if you were really sure you would not feel the need to be so defensive! If it’s the truth we will find it. Do you not trust that?”
My younger son recently watched the movie Spotlight and I could tell what he was thinking. He’s not easily impressed by people with spiritual resumes, he watches their lives. And so it is with many in their twenties. They are not impressed with a title, they want to see authenticity.

As a leader of a mega Christian women’s ministry there are times I feel tempted to use my kids as trophies. I want what they do to reflect positively on me. But God reminds me they weren’t created for me they were created for Him. God also reminds me the time I found my path was when I no longer lived to be my mother’s trophy but to find my own identity under Christ. So that’s what I try to do for my sons. They must have the freedom to work their own process and settle their convictions. And I must trust that the same God who led me to truth is leading my sons. He is faithful from one generation to the next. How are you trusting God with the next generation?

When I serve I feel God’s Pleasure

The day I became an adult was when I realized I was created to serve God. This meant learning to hear God’s voice more than the messages from my formative years. There were many dreams my mother held in her heart for me, some were also God’s dreams, others were born from her own fears and even personal ambition. The day I could say “This is the me God created” versus “No this is not what God wants for me” I was set free. To truly live God’s dreams for me meant being set free of everyone’s expectations including my own. I was free to soar when I could finally say “I serve at the pleasure of God alone!” What about you? When you serve do you feel God’s pleasure?

Treasure I Didn’t Know I Had

After my mother died I found a biscuit tin in which she hid several pieces of jewelry she had saved over the years. Her intention was for those pieces to serve as an emergency fund for her children in case we ever needed money. I thought the jewelry in the biscuit tin was the last treasure my mother left me. I was wrong.

Excerpt from the book:I saw the treasure box as the only thing my mother had left me. But then, one day, as I was wrestling with my own life, I walked suddenly into a moment of clarity. My mother’s story was its own hidden treasure. She must have known that one day, I would find it, just as I found that box.

 

I began to piece her life back together and in the process, to reassemble my own. As I brought her back in my memories, I could almost touch her, see her, and smell the perfume she used to wear. I walked with her through her girlhood in the village, through the brief beautiful dreams that were fulfilled and the many more that were lost forever. From the ashes of the stories she had told only me after the rest of the family had gone to sleep, emerged a story of love and trauma and betrayal and disappointment—a story that can finally be put to rest by her daughter’s attempt to write the ending.

 

In unraveling my mother’s story, I discovered the real treasure was her unselfishness. She gave up education to work so she could help her mother feed her siblings. She left behind her first born when she left the country to find work to support the rest of the family. She was willing to take on risks that no one else in her family was willing to take on. To my surprise, she mirrored the sacrificial love of Christ. Could it possibly be that she was the one who planted seeds for my service? Does my service find its roots in her example?

 

Have you been too quick to judge what is wrong with your mother? What are the seeds she planted in you that has borne positive fruit? RESPOND BELOW

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She Was a Woman with Dreams

“Beyond my Mother’s Dreams: Unraveling her story to find my own” was a difficult book to share publicly because left to me, I would rather not bare my soul to the world. But God reminded me that our stories do not belong to us, they belong to Him. And He wants His story told…

 

In writing this book, I realized that all those years when my mother poured her stories and tears into me, her dream was that her daughter would not live with the same helplessness that she experienced in life. Deep inside, I believe she secretly dreamed that, one day, her daughter would emerge with the strength she never had and honor her tears by changing the world for women.

 

How did I miss that she wanted my life to be different than hers because she wanted more for me? For many years, I judged my mother for abandoning me. My views of her were totally derived by how her actions impacted my life. It never occurred to me till now that she was once a girl with dreams of her own and that she was dealing with regrets and disappointments. It never occurred to me that she worked hard to make a way for me before she lost hope for herself. It was like she set my life in motion before she lost hope for herself.

 

What life do you think your mother desires for you compared to what she accepted in her own life? Respond Below

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¿Tu Reputación Te Persigue?

Escrito por Anita Carman

El segmento de radio de Anita Carman se escucha a diario en KHCB FM 105.7 a las 10:30 de la mañana. A continuación recibe tu minuto de inspiración.

Querida Creyente:

Cuando tu nombre sale al tema, ¿qué es lo que la gente dice de ti? En Romanos 1:8, Pablo dijo de los romanos: “Doy gracias a mi Dios por todos ustedes, pues en el mundo entero se habla bien de su fe”.  Cuando entras a algún lugar, ¿Qué es lo que entra? ¿Se acaba de aparecer la fe? ¿Se acaba de aparecer la piedad? ¿Se acaba de mostrar el liderazgo? ¿O tienes una reputación de ser irresponsable, emocionalmente inestable, o de navegar sin rumbo y nunca terminar lo que empezaste? ¿Qué medidas tomarás el día de hoy para transformar tu reputación?

Cuando oro por tí, escucho una canción de victoria. Creo en tí porque creo en el poder de la Palabra de Dios en tí, cuando pones Su palabra en acción.

Con cariño, Anita

Celebremos Diciendo: Es Bueno

Escrito por Anita Carman

El segmento de radio de Anita Carman se escucha a diario en KHCB FM 105.7 a las 10:30 de la mañana. A continuación recibe tu minuto de inspiración.

Querida Creyente:

¿Alguna vez te has matado trabajando sin que nadie se haya dado cuenta o te haya apreciado? Juan 1:10-11 dice: “El que era la luz ya estaba en el mundo, y el mundo fue creado por medio de él, pero el mundo no lo reconoció.”  No hubo aplausos. Nadie puso una alfombra roja. No hubo ningún diálogo sobre lo impresionado que estábamos sobre el mundo creado por Dios. La próxima vez que te sientas mal porque nadie reconoce tu esfuerzo, ¿por qué no celebras como Dios lo hizo cuando examinó su creación y se dijo a sí mismo: “Es bueno”?

Cuando oro por tí, escucho una canción de victoria. Creo en tí porque creo en el poder de la Palabra de Dios en tí, cuando pones Su palabra en acción.

Con cariño, Anita

Don’t Settle for Less than the Power of the Resurrection

Written by Anita Carman

Anita Carman’s radio segment is heard daily on KHCB FM 105.7 at 10.30 a.m. Below please receive your minute of inspiration!

Dear Faithful One,

 

God’s power is not just talk. Romans 1:4 tells us that Jesus was declared with power to be the Son of God by his resurrection from the dead. Power was visibly demonstrated by the resurrection. Did you know that God wants His power in your life to be evidence to the world that He is alive and well? Don’t settle for less than the power of the resurrection. When one dream dies, trust God for another. Don’t limit God by your personal potential.

 

When I pray for you, I hear a victory song. I believe in you because I believe in the power of God’s Word in you as you put His Word into action. Happy Resurrection Sunday!!!

 

Love, Anita

No Conformarse con Algo Menor al Poder de la Resurrección

Escrito por Anita Carman

El segmento de radio de Anita Carman se escucha a diario en KHCB FM 105.7 a las 10:30 de la mañana. A continuación recibe tu minuto de inspiración.

Querida Creyente:

El poder de Dios no son sólo palabras. Romanos 1:4 nos dice que Jesús fue declarado con poder de ser el Hijo de Dios por su resurrección de entre los muertos. El poder se demostró visiblemente con la resurrección. ¿Sabías que Dios quiere que Su poder en tu vida sea evidencia ante el mundo que Él está vivo? No te conformes con algo menor al poder de la resurrección. Cuando un sueño muera, confía en Dios para que te de otro. No limites a Dios con tu potencial personal.

Cuando oro por tí, escucho una canción de victoria. Creo en tí porque creo en el poder de la Palabra de Dios en tí, cuando pones Su palabra en acción. ¡Feliz Domingo de Resurrección!

Con cariño, Anita